Steps To Forgiveness

I would like to give credit to Ate Jenny my spiritual mother whom I haven't seen for years, thank you for sharing this to me. I have kept this journal for a long time, but then I realized this needs to be shared so that someone who might be facing the same issue will be encourage. During times I find myself having tough time forgiving someone I am reminded of this things.

1. Identify the people, situations and issues that have hurt you. You feel pain inside when you think of them.

2. Condemn the act, not the person.

3. Release yourself from victim mentality. Say, " I choose no longer to be bound as a victim in my thinking by this circumstance.
I choose the pathway of healing for my pain."

4. Release justice and judgement into God's hands. It is mine to avenge. I will repay, says the Lord." Romans 12:9

5. Give up the right to get what is owed to you.
Say I release __________ from the debt that they owe me. I realize I need healing for this pain and the consequence of this situation
on my life. But, I now see that they cannot make it up to me. I now release them totally into the loving care of my Heavenly Father,
who judges all people fairly.

6. In some situations confrontation is needed to set both parties free. But remember Forgiveness and Trust are two different issues.

7. Pray

8. Use the wrong doing against you as a source of God's deepening work of compassion in you life. This will give you identification
with others.

REMEMBER THIS:
a. I CANNOT UNDO THAT WHICH HAS BEEN DONE AGAINST ME, BUT I CAN RENDER IT POWERLESS IN MY LIFE, AND USE IT FOR GOOD.

b. BUT AS FOR YOU, YOU MEANT EVIL AGAINST ME; BUT GOD MEANT IT FOR GOOD, IN ORDER TO BRING IT ABOUT AS IT IS THIS DAY, TO SAVE
MANY PEOPLE ALIVE. GENESIS 50:20

Like what other's said. It is easy being said than done. I haven't perfected this area in my life, but hopeful by God's grace.

A Grieving Heart

I was looking back and remembered how and what it was enjoying and journeying single life. It's adventure, joy, frustration and dreams.
Then I recalled one specific emotion that trigger me to put it into writings. Hopefully people find this article helpful.

Grief is a very personal thing.An emotion that are indescribable in words. Every grief is different and the way you grieve may be entirely different than the way I grieve, yet both of us will probably share same emotional symptoms like Sorrow, Anger, Loneliness, Sadness, Shame, Anxiety, Blame, Emptiness and Depression. I know you agree. Prior to my marriage I encountered a terrible emotional loss, relationship breakup. I had so much resentment in my heart then. But you know, this very same wound led me back to God. Because of this pain that I drew more closer to God trusting his Power to heal me. Only He is able to cure me. Now let me share the stages I go through before finally embracing my healing.

Stage 1: Acknowledge your Grief
Don't deny what you feel. If you wanted to cry, to shout, or to talk about it then do. Let your heart
mourn. Allowing this things is the way to let it go.Do not be pressured to hide nor denying it. It's your grief
and it is real.

Stage 2: Allow your Anger but resist the temptation of placing Blame
Have a healthy lifestyle, create self care habits this establishes self value and worth.Pampering yourself
feels good and the need to place blame disappear. Acknowledging Anger is not wrong but do not dwell or
linger on bad thoughts and stop placing blame. It won't help.

Stage 3: Intercept, Resist, Divert
Intercept your thoughts. Resist temptation and Divert by redirecting your interests elsewhere with more
self gratifying activities.

Stage 4: Depression is a symptom of suppressed emotions.
Let it out. Read His word. Take this as an opportunity to also know your Creator. The Lord is close to the
brokenhearted and saves those who are crush in spirit Psalm 34:18

Stage 5: Have the Freedom to tell your story.
As your dark clouds have now parted you should feel beautiful. Now your soul has been reawakened use this to
to see and appreciate the beauty surrounding you. Be an Encouragement to others, your story is a testimony so share it.