Steps To Forgiveness

I would like to give credit to Ate Jenny my spiritual mother whom I haven't seen for years, thank you for sharing this to me. I have kept this journal for a long time, but then I realized this needs to be shared so that someone who might be facing the same issue will be encourage. During times I find myself having tough time forgiving someone I am reminded of this things.

1. Identify the people, situations and issues that have hurt you. You feel pain inside when you think of them.

2. Condemn the act, not the person.

3. Release yourself from victim mentality. Say, " I choose no longer to be bound as a victim in my thinking by this circumstance.
I choose the pathway of healing for my pain."

4. Release justice and judgement into God's hands. It is mine to avenge. I will repay, says the Lord." Romans 12:9

5. Give up the right to get what is owed to you.
Say I release __________ from the debt that they owe me. I realize I need healing for this pain and the consequence of this situation
on my life. But, I now see that they cannot make it up to me. I now release them totally into the loving care of my Heavenly Father,
who judges all people fairly.

6. In some situations confrontation is needed to set both parties free. But remember Forgiveness and Trust are two different issues.

7. Pray

8. Use the wrong doing against you as a source of God's deepening work of compassion in you life. This will give you identification
with others.

REMEMBER THIS:
a. I CANNOT UNDO THAT WHICH HAS BEEN DONE AGAINST ME, BUT I CAN RENDER IT POWERLESS IN MY LIFE, AND USE IT FOR GOOD.

b. BUT AS FOR YOU, YOU MEANT EVIL AGAINST ME; BUT GOD MEANT IT FOR GOOD, IN ORDER TO BRING IT ABOUT AS IT IS THIS DAY, TO SAVE
MANY PEOPLE ALIVE. GENESIS 50:20

Like what other's said. It is easy being said than done. I haven't perfected this area in my life, but hopeful by God's grace.

Parenting

How would you evaluate your skill on being a parent to your children? Are you good at it? Personally it was a personal struggle and challenging at the same time. I grew up with a dysfunctional family and fatherless at a very young age. Growing up was really difficult, deprived by love and less affirmed from family. I developed a poor self-image out of this childhood experience.It made me become more emotional. I didn't developed a healthy relationship with my mother too. All those experiences keeps me wondering if I will become a good loving parent.

Now that I became a mother, the proper approach in disciplining my child was a challenge. I educate myself cause I am determined to raise her with love and care. But this takes patience and more patience. I was reminded of His Unfailing Love. A tiny voice reminding me, "I am teaching you a very important lesson in life "Patience". I am short tempered by the way. It was so easy for a child throwing tantrums when they're disappointed. I realized parenting is as hard as it sounds. It is indeed exhausting, demanding but challenging as well.It is a long journey and there are no short cuts. We need to show love, know, teach and encourage them they're our precious gems, the very continuity of our dreams.Our role is irrevocable and inevitable.As for me, I know God is teaching me patience and He wants me to grow more in Love. Parenting can be a good opportunity for us to correct past mistakes.

Choosing goodbye

They say, Love is best expressed when we’re with our loved ones and is usually best appreciated when we get to spend time with them. Some people just make us feel important and be needed.Love help us find our purpose in life and it gives us a sense of worth. No wonder the bible says "God is Love". It is by this love that God shed His blood for us…

Indeed Love is essential in any relationship but LIFE is filled with goodbye’s as well.It might be temporary or permanent but in any relationship —whether with family, friends or lovers, the word "goodbye" is dreadful to hear.

"Goodbye" to those painful incidents in life , it gives an empty feeling deep down. And saying those words, always brings that feeling of loss.I guess though we already know that saying goodbye is sometimes bound to be part in any relationship, we try to think of it as a defeat. Goodbyes partly reflect our failure to sustain a relationship. Oftentimes we never intended to do it but sometimes it is inevitable. We decide to part ways(permanent or temporal) because it is for our own good.I was reminded by an advice given to me during a tough times in my life. If a certain situation, a person or a thing hinders you to grow and instead drag you down then  perhaps it is an obvious sign that "maybe" it is not in accordance to His will.It was an eye-opener for me and I chose to end it up.